If you didn’t read you should!
And don’t worry, you don’t need to follow anything they say if you don’t want to. Look for topics mentioning classes you want to know better, and by simply reading different discussions you will see lots of people asking about builds, sometimes the same questions you have, making similar builds, etc. Imo the best opportunities you will have to learn are when people disagree while trying to help, you will can analyze different opinions about the same subject and then form your own. This can help you to truly understand what you are doing.
Others can help you at the same time, yeah, but by doing this and researching you can help them to help you. You need to have a minimum base of knowledge about what you are asking. Try at least.
About this other build. I never tested Bokor or Druid, so I don’t think I have enough experience/knowledge to comment or suggest anything.