Solution for now, yes it works!!!
edit user.xml file here : \SteamLibrary\steamapps\common\TreeOfSavior\release
change Resolution mode=“1” to “2” game will start in window mode,
click the server you want and click enter, then just click “x” of game window and click cancel.
thats it you are in the game 

i tried all the fixes on forum, anything really fix
I have none and I really want to be friends with my friends 
