You had choices.
Option 1 - You stay on your server and your friends come join you.
Pros: you don’t have to restart or lose your EA stuff
Cons: Over population that causes tons of crashes and errors for you and your friends
Option 2 - You go start on the new server with your friends
Pros: Better game experience for all of you as the servers will have a more reasonable population.
Cons: YOU lose your progress and EA items
You had a choice, you made it. Regardless of if you choose to acknowledge it. you did.
That is why you call them friends. But i have yet to see why they call you friend.
In the options were discussing you would go with them. But you keep coming back with me me me me.