First decide your focus. For a two-handed spear mounted build i would go:
For pvp, go sw3>cata3>dragoon
Sw for restrain, cata for trot and rush, thats your best combo, dragoon for more damage
For pve, probably sw>pelta>hop>cata3>dragoon
Sw for pain barrier and bash lv3(optional, but u dont wanna it above lv 3), pelta for swash buckling and guard lv1(you wanna it at lv1 for the 18% evasion without hurting your damage too much), hop for finestra, cata for rush and trot, dragoon for more damage.
But honestly, if wanna damage go for archer, you can have one of the best single target damage of the game at rank 5 with qs3>rogue